Uber and Out
Last year, when I was in New York, I was playing on Grindr and hit up a profile that read "ex-frat jock." The guy's age was 26, and his...
Balls N' All in San Francisco
In late summer of 2015, I took a trip to San Francisco for a gay soccer tournament. After an excruciating breakup, I was looking for some...
Open Marriages and the N.S.A. Myth
In the short-lived CBS series Swingtown, Mike Kelley’s underappreciated take on suburban swingers in the sexual revolution of the 70s,...
Down Low and Dirty
A few years ago, when I lived in Long Beach, I was recovering from a breakup with my boyfriend of three years. To help get over him, I...
Cupid is a Sociopath, Part 2
Continued from Cupid is a Sociopath, part 1 Over the next six months, Cupid's poison-tipped arrow continued to sting, and I still thought...
First Crush
I burst out of the closet when I was 22, having graduated from UC Berkeley earlier that year. Finally, I was openly gay, and could start...
Cupid is a Sociopath, Part 1
I met the man of my dreams on Halloween, which should have been the first clue things weren’t what they seemed. Halloween is like the gay...
Fair Gayme
The absolute worst way to come out at work... I met Scooter at a convention for work in San Diego. He worked for my company’s biggest...
Smells Like a Shit Show
One night in Hollywood, I was with some friends at an afterparty at some random person's house. We sat on the porch drinking and taking...
Casper the Avoidant Ghost
If you’ve dated in the last ten years, you’ve likely felt the sting of ghosting – when someone ends a friendship or a relationship by...