It Gets Worse! Gay Dating Gone Bad

IF YOU THOUGHT COMING OUT WAS HARD, WAIT UNTIL YOU TRY DATING

Growing Pains

As performed at the Moth Grand Slam in Los Angeles on August 28, 2017. Several years ago, when my grandmother had a stroke and was in a...

WeHo Halloween

My first Halloween in Los Angeles, I checked out the West Hollywood street fest with my buddy Benji. The town of WeHo closes down Sant...

Can We Please Retire the "Macklemore Cut"?

Let’s be honest: it’s getting really hard to tell who’s gay these days. It’s been hard enough since Metrosexuals entered the culture back...

Full House

While traveling through Wisconsin for work, I chatted with a guy on Grindr. He was bi, closeted, and discreet. I had an hour to kill, so...

Splashed

While I visited San Diego for Pride, I attended a private pool party with friends. Having walked directly from the parade route, I hadn’t...

Hotel Hookup

One warm summer night, a guy hit me up on Scruff. He was staying at the Best Western around the corner from where I lived, and he invited...

The Kings of Bullsh*t Mountain

Why isn't gay dating as straight forward as straight dating? I’m not referring to shaving a few pounds off a profile, fudging your...

Swim at Your Own Risk

Recently I was home for a 20-year college reunion. While in town I chatted with a few "discreet bi" guys on Grindr. One of them invited...

Hot 'n Cold Kevin

Last year, I started chatting with this guy Kevin on Scruff. He lived 2.5 hours from me in a college town in Missouri, where he was going...

Disappearing Dates

While at a bar in San Francisco, I met a 32-year old former college football player from the Midwest. He was in town with friends, and we...

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When it comes

to being gay,

it gets better.

But when it comes

to dating,

it gets worse!

This website is dedicated to the painfully honest dating exploits

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Straight dating is hard enough, but throw in the delayed adolescence, denial, and myriad disorders of growing up gay in a straight man's world, and you'll find It Gets Worse...

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